There are many divine experiences that connect two people in a union. Some experiences focus on compatibility whereas some build dependence and trust. In a marriage, the two individuals face many life events together, it is a great advantage if both have a deep connection.
Spirituality is the cosmic concept that believes in a world beyond the self. It involves a connection with a higher power (or religion in some cases). It introduces a person to a worldview that is more than a sensory and physical level. Spirituality is often a source of comfort, relief, and hope. It is of great help in situations of grief, distress, and bereavement. Some examples of spiritual experiences are awareness of karmic design, power of intuitive thoughts, chakra healing and more.
Abraham Maslow (world-renowned humanistic psychologist) did research on Spirituality. He found that many different examples of spiritual experiences like meditation, yoga, chanting create peak experiences in the brain. These peak experiences have lasting effects. These effects resemble euphoria.
If you indulge in these experiences with your loved one, they create a connection. These lead to a meaningful relationship. Some examples of spiritual experiences with your spouse are given below –
Self Reflection is the simplest exercise to develop meaning. It starts with questioning yourself, your belief system, and then, analyzing your responses. Self reflection is mostly a personal journal but you can share it with your spouse. Both of you can discuss different themes and try to connect with each other. Some questions to ponder upon are –
- What is your belief system?
- What relaxes you?
- Where do you find peace?
- Do you pray daily? What does praying mean to you?
- Do you talk with a higher power? Do you believe in signs?
Cleanse your relationship
There might be some secrets in your past. Most of us have made mistakes that we regret. A spiritual experience begins with a clean slate. It is advised to be honest with your spouse and let them in your dark experiences. You should openly talk about any of your past relationships, your desires, and any negative emotions that you experience. This will build trust and honesty in your relationship.
Also, learn to forgive. Your partner will open to you and you must try to forgive them for any misdoings. It might not be easy but it would be the right thing to do.
“When two people grow together, they connect deeper”
If you want to start at a simple level, you can start by forming routines with your partner. Both of you can share an activity daily. You have to be punctual, dedicated, and honest towards the activity. This will bring compassion and discipline to your relationship. There are many examples of spiritual experiences that can be turned into a daily ritual –
- Reading a holy text or a spiritual book together
- Praying together
- Fasting together
- Listening to spiritual sermons together
- Chanting together
If you set an activity and follow it daily, both of you will adopt a great habit.
Align your energies
Spirituality believes that we all have energy inside us. This energy guides our moods, our actions, and our living. To form a divine connection, it is necessary to align the energies. If the energies are misaligned, problems brew, and the connection is affected. Many ancient texts have focused on this premise as well. There are different experiences that align with energies. You can try all of them and choose the technique which is best suited for you as a couple.
There are seven main chakras:
- Root Chakra
- Sacral Chakra
- Solar Plexus Chakra
- Heart Chakra
- Throat Chakra
- Third Eye Chakra
- Crown Chakra
The healing techniques include chakra meditation, chakra massage, positive affirmations, professional energy healers, and chakra music therapy. You can follow the technique that you and your spouse find luring.
Crystals are formed by repeating chemical structure. Many believe that crystals possess energies. Different minerals give different crystals that have different powers. There are crystal healers and therapists that help in crystal spirituality. A healer knows the healing properties of every single crystal and chooses the crystal as per the client. The crystal is placed around different parts of the body to help unblock, focus, and guide energy. The most famous crystals are emerald, ruby, sapphire, topaz.
The most followed spiritual practice is meditation. It helps in clarity, connection, strength, and courage. There is no age limit to meditation. Basic meditation (based on breathing and mindfulness) can be pursued by almost anyone. Meditation has recently gained a lot of importance in popular culture as well.
You can pursue simple meditation or choose a guided-meditation focused on a special issue. Many wellness centers provide spiritual mediation, couples meditation, meditation to build intimacy, and more. There are many spiritual organizations that provide fellowships, and courses.
Meditation connects you to your inner self and it explores the boundaries of your soul. If you meditate with your spouse, it builds a bridge between your souls.
You can pursue simple meditation or choose a guided-meditation focused on a special issue. Many wellness centers provide spiritual mediation, couples meditation, meditation to build intimacy, and more. There are many spiritual organizations that provide fellowships, and courses. There are podcasts available in the market with audios of a guru.
If you are a beginner, it is advised that you and your spouse start the practice of meditation with a spiritual healer. A healer will guide you to different breathing paces, chants, and the depth of exploration. Also, the healer will help you to form a connection with your spouse through collective chants and gestures. The most commonly practiced meditations are –
- Loving-kindness meditation
- Body scan or progressive relaxation
- Mindfulness meditation
- Breath awareness meditation
- Kundalini yoga
- Zen meditation
- Transcendental Meditation
Habit of Mindfulness
Mindfulness is very commonly pursued. Mindfulness can be a tool to discover how spirituality manifests in your life and relationship. It guides you to be aware of what is happening in your body and mind in the present moment. This allows you to explore beliefs, perspectives, and experiences in a way that might lead to new insights around spiritual questions.
A brief guide to being mindful-
- Take your seat. Find a comfortable spot. Take your own space.
- Notice your body. Be conscious of your legs and arms. Feel the movement of your legs as you settle in your space.
- Relax your shoulders. Do not sit in a stressed position.
- Keep your spine straight. Your spine has a major role in your focus, keep it straight.
- Keep your arms parallel to your body. Do not rest your hands on your body.
- Let your jaw relax as well.
- Close your eyes and focus on every part of your body – how it is alert and how it rests.
- Keep deep breathing and repeat the activity.
Service is the most consuming among the different examples of spiritual experiences. A service is an act of devotion and submission. You and your spouse can choose to serve your community, a trust, a non-profit organization, etc. If you are looking for a spiritual experience, then you can choose to serve places of spiritual significance. There are many places by Bahai’ Faith, Mother Nature, Art of Living, Buddhism, and more where you can serve.
Religion is a way to connect with God. It is the doctrine that builds a path to the worship of the higher power. Religious practices are beneficial in building a strong sense of hope. If both of you follow the same religion, you can start with some rituals. There are different rituals dictated by different religions. The major religions are Christianity, Hinduism, Islam, Sikhism, Buddhism. If you and your spouse follow different religions, you can create a safe space for worship and devotion. Religion as a community has strong social-emotional effects.
Spirituality begins within the self in the purest form. If you hope to build a spiritual connection with your spouse, it is necessary to be true to yourself. There are some baseline points to follow –
- Be authentic
- Do not hide any emotions or vulnerabilities
- Be true to the spiritual practice
- Be punctual and devoted- do not miss the experiences
- Try to immerse yourself- lower your boundaries
- Be open with your spouse
- Discuss the effects of spirituality
- Understand the meaning of spirituality for your spouse
- Do not push your spouse
- Do not get influenced by popular culture
Spirituality is a great way to dig deep into your relationship. It helps to explore your spouse and yourself. It can also lead to a new sense of safety. Many couples who have tried different spiritual activities together have become stronger than ever. Spirituality also lifts your family. If you have children, they also benefit from your decision to pursue spirituality. Many therapies that involve different proven scientific techniques also include simple spiritual techniques. Some examples of spiritual experiences are positive affirmations, gratitude, selflessness, gratitude letter, and more. Spirituality can build a strong meaningful connection.